Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Dream Analysis: The Smoker and his "daughter"
In my dream, I bump into this person many times in unexpected places, and each time, without ever seeing him do it, I know, and he knows that I know, that he's been smoking...and it is apparent that this is something he doesn't want people to know about (as far as I know, in present reality, this man doesn't smoke).
So each time I see him, there is a conspiritorial laugh like "Geeze, how IS it that you always bump into me when I've been smoking?", although, this isn't spoken, it is communicated just with a laugh, or a roll of the eyes, through humor. At one point, I say to him "You know, other than the fact that I want you around for a very long time and care about your health, I don't give a shit if you smoke. I'm not the smoking police."
The dream shifts to another scene. In this scene, this same man is asking me to consult on a mental health diagnosis for his black daughter named Ruby. (He has only sons and has no black daughter named Ruby, but I know someone who DOES have such a daughter). She is very young and is exhibiting some troubling behaviors and he wants my opinion on what to do about it. I am asking him who has assessed her and what their assessment was. And I don't agree with the assessment. But really, that's all there is to this portion of the dream.
So what does that mean? Is this guy suddenly a closet smoker? I have no idea. Is the person who really does have a black daughter named Ruby having difficulty with her and somehow I can help? I have no idea. Those would be the physical, literal connections to the dream. Let's see, if I look in the handy-dandy The Dream Book by Betty Bethards, if I can find any symbolism meant for me:
I know there is a spiritual and past life connection to my friend the "closet smoker". Perhaps we travel together or in similar circuits in other realms.
Smoke: "lack of clarity; things are hazy; confusion. Indicator of heated emotions; where there's smoke, there's fire. Warning."
Shoot. I'm honestly at a loss on this one. I don't see many symbols. I never SAW any smoke, never SAW him smoking, never smelled smoke. It was just every time I saw him, we both knew that I knew that he had been and he had been trying to hide it, but knew I knew. And it was no big deal. And I have no idea about the little girl. Maybe I'm supposed to pair this healer with this person's daughter? Time will tell. I'll share the post, if I remember with both of them.